Paul’s first day at St Richard’s

10th October 2017

It seemed to be such a turning point for me that first time at day hospice.

My nurse had mentioned the ‘h’ word and I recoiled at the very thought of me going to a hospice. It was a negative emotional response based upon nothing other than assumption and imagination rather than experience or fact.

Very soon the manager and a physiotherapist came from the hospice for an assessment at my home, they were positive and cheerful about it all while I was still dubious.

That first day passed quickly and was emotionally exhausting. The hospice volunteers arrived with the minibus at home and I realised that I was a hospice patient, terminally ill, with carers, volunteers, nurses and so on, all flooding my life before I was ready.

But when will any of us be ready for that time? That time when our own mortality shocks the rhythm of what was our ‘normal’ into a different, yet shorter ‘normal’.

The journey away from home was actually towards a better wellbeing, I just didn’t know that yet.

As we arrived in the car park I felt a mixed bag of dread, doubt, nausea and excited expectancy. Descending the wheelchair lift I was ashamed at my own nervousness. I love meeting new people, new experiences are fine too, but going into a hospice; me!

I wanted…what did I want? To be away from here, to be well again, to be dealing with this better. All unrealistic. I had to show some grit, put on a smile and get on with it, for my wife’s sake I just had to get on with it. I drove forward into reception in my wheelchair.

And that’s another thing! One year I’m driving a new car, I’m working, I’m walking and generally just ‘doing’. The next I’m not able, I’m ill, in a wheelchair. I’m in a hospice for goodness sake.

God, I just bet you it’s all tartan slippers and crusty sandwiches. Loud television in the corner and dribbling patients sat in a circle staring into the past. It will smell of you know what, and I will not like it, I will not like it at all.  But I will put up with it for my darling wife, to give her a day off from me.

From the welcome until the farewell it was not as I had feared, imagined or assumed. It was wonderfully up-lifting. It was unexpectedly raucous and happy. The day was filled with laughter and new friends. The hospice offered me a different future and I grabbed it with both paws.

By Paul Brockbank

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The way we work has been adapted, with many of our services delivered remotely – such as over the phone, or by video call. And we are working closely with other health care professionals in Worcestershire to share knowledge and expertise at this time.

Latest changes at St Richard’s Hospice

  • In-patient Unit: It is with great sadness that due to stringent infection control measures, we are required to restrict visiting and cannot offer the comprehensive level of service in the way we usually do. However, we will still do our utmost to make sure that each patient and loved one is given the compassion and dignity they deserve. To help families stay in touch we are encouraging virtual visiting using technology such as video calls and apps. This will be discussed and explained to patients and families on admission and we can help provide access to equipment in the hospice. In addition, the IPU nursing team will liaise with each patient and family to arrange short daily visits from the patient's closest loved one and compassionate visiting, as appropriate. Read the full details here.
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